It has happened to every man. We see this woman that is just smoking hot. We are just proud because we at least had the courage to talk to her. But for some reason she is just not feeling us. The vibe just is not there.
You can snatch victory from the jaws of defeat if you just know how.
1. Get On Her Level. This is not the time to be cute or confrontational. Find out what she is interested in and talk about that. Find some level of common ground. Don't debate. You can either win the argument or get the number. At this point you will not be able to do both.
This does not mean being a "yes" man. Stupidly agreeing with everything she is saying will just insult her intelligence. Try to find things that you agree on and talk about them. Add some new insight. This will put her at ease.
Whatever you do, don't mention anything about sex. If she is not feeling you to begin with this will certainly not help. This will make you look just like every other guy.
2. Once you have gotten on common ground with her, find out about her. By this time you should have broken this ice. Now is the time to show that you are not like the other guys. Find out about her likes and dislikes. Actually listen to what she is saying.
Don't just listen, share something about you. This is a balance that just takes time for you to get good at. Just share about something that is positive that you have accomplished for others. It is really helpful if this person was a female. Don't go for the mother angle because that is just what she expects. Talk about a time when you help another woman. This will show how you treat women.
What you really want to know is what she is missing in her life and you can be the answer. Once you know this, you have an in. Use it. That is what it is there for. Don't get soft at this point. Remember how hard you had to work to get here.
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